One of our favourite dating and relationship experts, Michelle Manley, always has great insights into what makes us tick romantically.
As we step into a new year many of us who are single, have ‘finding love’ as one of our main resolutions.
Here, Michelle asks if we should ‘Stop or Step Up? Find Out Which Will Attract Your Perfect Partner In 2021!’
Michelle says: “Does this sound familiar? You’re feeling exhausted and frustrated from the effort you’re putting into dating?
If you’re a woman calling a man, arranging dates, suggesting things to do together, buying little gifts you think he’ll like AND it feels awful – that’s because you’re in your masculine energy and you instinctively want to be in your feminine energy.
If that means nothing to you, don’t worry. That’s because most of us women have lost the connection to our feminine energy.
Feminine energy is all about BEING. It’s feelings, emotions, gut and instinct.
It’s receiving and appreciating.
And masculine energy is the opposite to feminine energy.
It’s all about DOING. It’s action, planning, organising.
It’s giving.
Now what if you’re a man and you are struggling to know what to do for the best for the women you’re dating and you’re nervous about getting it wrong – it’s not clear whether you should be opening the door for her, offering to get her a drink, walking her to her car AND yet that feels like all the right things to do – that’s because you instinctively want to be in your masculine energy.
It’s important to emphasise here that masculine and feminine energy are not gender specific – we all have both energies.
Think of them as complementary energies like Yin and Yang, that fit together beautifully and work effortlessly together.
And just like the way they work together well within us; they also work well together in relationships.
They complement each other.
One partner in masculine energy and the other in feminine energy feels amazing, creates harmony and is effortless.
Now having said they aren’t gender specific it is often the case for women to feel drawn to a man who is masculine 
energy; a man to lead, to suggest, to plan and to organise.
AND for men to feel drawn to a woman who will LET him lead, plan and organise and to appreciate what he does i.e. a feminine energy woman.
I hasten to add here that feminine energy is NOT submissive or weak – think of it as strong, warm and open.
And masculine energy is NOT bullying or controlling – think of it as giving, proactive and generous.
I believe vehemently that men and women are equal in every way AND I believe they are different!
Being a masculine energy man and being equal to a woman are NOT mutually exclusive.
Being a feminine energy woman and being equal to a man are NOT mutually exclusive.
If you’re a woman who is tired of initiating calls with a man, being the one to suggest dates and organising where you go, then STOP!
Stop doing what feels awful and create space for a masculine energy man to step into.
And a masculine energy man will love that!
And if you’re a man who wants to take the lead, to organise something that your date will love and who instinctively wants to make a woman feel safe and cared for then STEP UP!
Step up and say, ‘I’d love to plan something for us to do. How would that feel?’ and open the door for her!
A feminine energy woman will love that!
AND this all goes for same sex couples too!
Which energy feels great to you?
Love
Michelle
Find out more about finding ‘the one’ with Michelle at her coaching site here: www.michellemanleycoaching.com
